just caught a documentary on ctv tonight about how people deal with breakup.
at least five people interviewed about their breakup experiences and one medical doctor.
one girl's breakup caused her to feel guity because the guy killed himself she ended the relationship. she ended up starting a business selling handbags. another girl was looking to get her wedding dress altered so it wouldn't look like a wedding dress. her story was that fiance broke off the relationship a week or two before the wedding. ouch. but, she drew on her experiences and wrote a book ... i think it's called "there goes the bride." i might look it up out of curiosity.
on the guys side, they interviewed guys who were dumped. one was depressed and got his doctor to prescribe some anti-depressants. he was a musician and eventually found another girlfriend. another guy turned to his faith for support and consulation.
anyhow, it was interesting how the doctor described physical manifestations of being heartbroken ... not being able to concentrate, not being able to eat, etc. she also noted the difference in how men and women deal with breakups ... but she also remarked how amazingly resilent humans are ... "like watching a phoenix rise from the ashes," as she says.
on a side note, there's a cartoon character called "break-up girl". sounds interesting... essentially this woman (creator) found some humour (not demeaning or anything) about break-ups ... i guess a lot of stand-up comics base their material on break-ups too...
kinda refreshing to see a documentary about a "less popular" topic in a realistic, yet humanistic light.
Saturday, May 14
Sunday, April 17
signs of spring
this weekend was relaxing.
finally made it to the ottawa public library ... took out a few books ... explored their library. indulged in reading "real simple" magazine -- my fave publication (practical yet picturesque!) took out "confessions of a shopaholic" for some light reading, "the missing manual for Mac OS X" for practical purposes, "the swashbucklers" by knowlton nash for nostalgic reasons and "paper shadows" by wayson choy for cultural enrichment and insight.
met with a fellow co-op student for coffee. she and i will be staying in the nation's capital for a second term.
we discussed the student evaluations. we talked about how politeness in some cultures can be seen as not being assertive enough, or possibly even passive. my friend, being a caucasian, noted that Canadians are pretty polite, too. women, are still, to some degree, socialized to be submissive. so, we agreed that assertiveness or passiveness could be measured by varying degrees ... depending on the person ... maybe librarians are also a bit "timid" because they don't want to offend patrons ... hmmm ...
as we had this discourse, we sat by the rideau canal and soaked in the sun. we also observed the sad state of debris leftover which the snow once concealed. the national spelling bee tour bus was parked on the other side of the canal. kids were out taking advantage of the balmy weather (we think). kids. sign of new life. the two seem to go well together.
when another season starts, particularly spring, it's a time to plan for the summer ... for relaxation. sowing the seed for the warm weather to grow something or other, as gardeners and farmers do. summer slips by so swiftly, if not scrutinized. so many plans, potential ... but unless there is intention and purpose and some goals established early in the season, fall comes more quickly than we wish.
finally made it to the ottawa public library ... took out a few books ... explored their library. indulged in reading "real simple" magazine -- my fave publication (practical yet picturesque!) took out "confessions of a shopaholic" for some light reading, "the missing manual for Mac OS X" for practical purposes, "the swashbucklers" by knowlton nash for nostalgic reasons and "paper shadows" by wayson choy for cultural enrichment and insight.
met with a fellow co-op student for coffee. she and i will be staying in the nation's capital for a second term.
we discussed the student evaluations. we talked about how politeness in some cultures can be seen as not being assertive enough, or possibly even passive. my friend, being a caucasian, noted that Canadians are pretty polite, too. women, are still, to some degree, socialized to be submissive. so, we agreed that assertiveness or passiveness could be measured by varying degrees ... depending on the person ... maybe librarians are also a bit "timid" because they don't want to offend patrons ... hmmm ...
as we had this discourse, we sat by the rideau canal and soaked in the sun. we also observed the sad state of debris leftover which the snow once concealed. the national spelling bee tour bus was parked on the other side of the canal. kids were out taking advantage of the balmy weather (we think). kids. sign of new life. the two seem to go well together.
when another season starts, particularly spring, it's a time to plan for the summer ... for relaxation. sowing the seed for the warm weather to grow something or other, as gardeners and farmers do. summer slips by so swiftly, if not scrutinized. so many plans, potential ... but unless there is intention and purpose and some goals established early in the season, fall comes more quickly than we wish.
Sunday, April 3
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